Someone asked this question on REDDIT: What was it like for you to start completely over when you were over 30? —
MY ANSWER: It was incredible. I’ve already done it twice & I’m planning to do it a third time.
What I believe in & what you must also give some thought to is the fact that we get only one life & that we’re going to die someday. Yet most of us live their lives like they are coming back or as if they’re immortals.
Life is short. All your desires will turn into regrets if you don’t work on them. Stop being afraid to go after the life you truly want.
A great book to read is “On the Shortness of Life” by Seneca. I go back to this book again and again in the moments of doubts & it frees me up.
What motivated me?
I’m always eager to improve my life. My main motivation has always been to get to the next level. And I’ve had a very humble childhood. I was an average boy. Very soft. Full of emotional needs. I’ve been a follower for a very long time, and so I was able to learn a lot. I always worked on my weaknesses & overcome them. So now I feel this huge urge to lead, to help others who are struggling the way I did.
How did I start?
Whenever I start over, I completely immerse myself into the new zone. I learn everything from the scratch. I give it all my time & focus. I get rid of all distractions. That’s how I did it twice and on my way to a third transformation now.
What steps I took?
1. Deep research.
2. Talking to industry experts.
3. Making sure that I complete all my previous pending stuff.
How did I feel?
Mixed feelings. When you face rejections in a new domain of work, it feels bad. But if you believe in yourself enough, you won’t give up. I didn’t. I kept moving after the rejections & setbacks. Then finally when you reach where you wanted to be, it feels so good, so amazing that you forget all the pain you had to go through reaching there.
Did I relocate?
Yes & no. I was already working away from home when I decided to switch the first time. So it was like coming back home. But I would’ve done it anyhow.
What do I wish I had known before that I know now?
I wish I had known it gets easier if you’re more mentally tough. I was a little tough anyhow, but transitions would’ve been happier if I was more tough. The rejections wouldn’t have hurt. The opinions of others wouldn’t have mattered much. It’s great when you don’t care about what others think. Mental toughness is the secret to happiness.
I no more fear anything anymore because I’ve come to the realization that fear is self induced. Danger is real but fear is a product of your imagination. Now I’m willing to go through litigation to succeed. I’m building my emotional bank account to be so strong mentally that I become limitless. I’m willing to fight and be confrontational if needed. I’ll do whatever it takes to succeed & be what I want to be.
I wish the same for everyone!
Good luck!
