THE BEST WAY TO FIGHT DEPRESSION

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Become obsessed with changing yourself. We stay depressed because we do not wish to deal with the reality which is dark and cruel. We are afraid to confront it because it makes us uncomfortable.

Remember that the pain of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.

In order to change, you must let go of your present self. You must realize that you’re constantly evolving. So either you are going down the spiral or upward. You’re never out of motion. You’re never at pause. Also, you’re not your past. Either you are better than who you were yesterday or you are worse.

So you have two choices: to change for better or to change for worse. Of course, when you’re depressed, it won’t feel like you have a Choice because you’re so entangled within the downward spiral. But you still, at the most basic level, have that choice to decide to move upward. It will be tough but if you really want it, you can do it.

We also don’t change because everytime we try to change, we are reminded of the past failed attempts at changing which create patterns of disappointment and pain.

Also, the pain of staying the same is always less than the pain of change. And so we choose not to change.

Remember, whether you choose to stay the same or you choose to change, you will suffer pain in both your choices. So you must choose which pain would you rather suffer because life is suffering and we must sacrifice something to gain anything. Decide what you wish to sacrifice.

Good luck!

HOW TO PERMANENTLY REDUCE YOUR SUFFERING?

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Marcus Aurelius says that every day you must dip into thoughts that put you at immediate and complete ease.

Seneca says people are troubled more due their own imaginative creations than due to reality. Think better. Here is how:

Thinking is work. It is true that we do not always choose our thoughts and some negative thoughts would pop up out of nowhere to trouble our tranquil minds. Yet, it is also true that we can create our own thoughts. But very few people actually practice this act of creating your own thoughts. Most people simply follow their stream of consciousness to the extent of wasting a lot of their time on things that matter very little.

Think better means to inject fresh new thoughts into your mind yourself. It is this act of creating your own favorite thoughts when you realize your mind is cluttered with negativity. It requires visualization and some powerful words that immediately put you at ease.

Marcus Aurelius says that every day you must dip into thoughts that put you at immediate and complete ease. You must always have at your disposal few fundamental thoughts that wash away all your pain and renew you for action. Whenever negativity gets hold of you, immediately return to these few fundamental thoughts and renew yourself.

I started practicing it recently and I’m way happier than I used to be. Earlier, I would fall into the trap of my own thoughts telling me that life is meaningless and there is no point in trying to accomplish anything because death equals it all. Basically, I would think myself into nihilism & would chuckle at it, thereby WASTING a lot of time.

I still get some such thoughts. But now I tackle them better. As soon as I acknowledge that I’m going down the nihilistic spiral, I deliberately inject some very powerful words and images into my mind that puts me at immediate ease. These images are usually pulled up from my past achievements: moments of sheer joy & excitement. I also tell myself that I’m no more the same person who used to self sabotage my capabilities. Instead, I’m someone who is growing to be a very strong & powerful.

Such thoughts fuel me for more productive action and I stay elated almost 100% of the time.

You can do the same. Always remember that you can always choose what to think. Why not think better?

HOW TO BREAK YOUR OLD HABITS & INSTALL NEW ONES?

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The greatest mistake is to identify yourself with habits patterns, emotions and behaviors you have from time-to-tome or even all the time. You are not your emotions, habits or behaviors. You are much more than that.

The major reason we don’t change is that we associate more pain to changing than to stay where we are. We have all tried to make changes in the past and failed. This creates a pattern of disappointment and pain. Another reason for not making a change is that we may have fear of the uncertainty, of moving into uncharted waters. Of leaving others behind. Losing the approval of our peer group and family. All these cause us pain and will keep us from being who we are truly capable of.

ASK YOURSELF THE RIGHT QUESTIONS

Most people ask THE WRONG, What if… questions. What if I fail? What if I give up eating junk food and die anyway? What if I give up my anger/ depression/ resentment about being hurt and get hurt again? What if I leave this relationship/ job and don’t find another?

YOU DON’T CHANGE BECAUSE YOU’RE ASKING THE WRONG QUESTIONS. ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS LIKE: What will it cost me if I don’t change? What will I miss out on? How will it affect my life and the lives of the people around me & of people I love? My relationships? My health? AND, how will my life be better if I make the change now? How will it affect my future? My health? My relationships? What will I gain?

These questions will link enormous pain to not changing now AND enormous pleasure in making the change today. Most people are capable of making change and want to change. The reason they don’t change is that change must be driven by intense desire and urgency to follow through with the action necessary to make the change. Asking these questions will cause you to get motivated to change today.

BREAK OLD EMOTIONAL HABIT PATTERNS

Fear, worry and most other emotions or behaviors are simply habit patterns of a certain way of thinking, speaking and/or behaving. These patterns coupled with certain belief systems cause us to feel certain emotions. In order for us to consistently feel, think or act a certain way, we have to first develop habitual ways of asking the same questions, focusing on the same images and using our physiology (our body) the same way over and over again.

For example, think of a person that is depressed. How would they stand (hunched over), where do they look (down), what does their face look like (frowning, sad) and how do they breathe (shallow)? You can interrupt this pattern of physiology (and the feelings that go with it) simply by substituting a different habit pattern. Such as standing tall, smiling and breathing deeply.

STOP IDENTIFYING WITH YOUR LIMITING EMOTIONS

Another way to interrupt a pattern is to stop identifying with any limiting emotion. Such as… “I am depressed” Or “I am a failure.” Instead, say… “I am running a habit that gets me into a state of depression.” Or ” I am running a ritual on myself right now that makes me feel bad and I call that a failure.” The greatest mistake is to identify yourself with habits patterns, emotions and behaviors you have from time-to-tome or even all the time. You are not your emotions, habits or behaviors. You are much more than that.