THE BEST WAY TO FIGHT DEPRESSION

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Become obsessed with changing yourself. We stay depressed because we do not wish to deal with the reality which is dark and cruel. We are afraid to confront it because it makes us uncomfortable.

Remember that the pain of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.

In order to change, you must let go of your present self. You must realize that you’re constantly evolving. So either you are going down the spiral or upward. You’re never out of motion. You’re never at pause. Also, you’re not your past. Either you are better than who you were yesterday or you are worse.

So you have two choices: to change for better or to change for worse. Of course, when you’re depressed, it won’t feel like you have a Choice because you’re so entangled within the downward spiral. But you still, at the most basic level, have that choice to decide to move upward. It will be tough but if you really want it, you can do it.

We also don’t change because everytime we try to change, we are reminded of the past failed attempts at changing which create patterns of disappointment and pain.

Also, the pain of staying the same is always less than the pain of change. And so we choose not to change.

Remember, whether you choose to stay the same or you choose to change, you will suffer pain in both your choices. So you must choose which pain would you rather suffer because life is suffering and we must sacrifice something to gain anything. Decide what you wish to sacrifice.

Good luck!

HOW TO PERMANENTLY REDUCE YOUR SUFFERING?

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Marcus Aurelius says that every day you must dip into thoughts that put you at immediate and complete ease.

Seneca says people are troubled more due their own imaginative creations than due to reality. Think better. Here is how:

Thinking is work. It is true that we do not always choose our thoughts and some negative thoughts would pop up out of nowhere to trouble our tranquil minds. Yet, it is also true that we can create our own thoughts. But very few people actually practice this act of creating your own thoughts. Most people simply follow their stream of consciousness to the extent of wasting a lot of their time on things that matter very little.

Think better means to inject fresh new thoughts into your mind yourself. It is this act of creating your own favorite thoughts when you realize your mind is cluttered with negativity. It requires visualization and some powerful words that immediately put you at ease.

Marcus Aurelius says that every day you must dip into thoughts that put you at immediate and complete ease. You must always have at your disposal few fundamental thoughts that wash away all your pain and renew you for action. Whenever negativity gets hold of you, immediately return to these few fundamental thoughts and renew yourself.

I started practicing it recently and I’m way happier than I used to be. Earlier, I would fall into the trap of my own thoughts telling me that life is meaningless and there is no point in trying to accomplish anything because death equals it all. Basically, I would think myself into nihilism & would chuckle at it, thereby WASTING a lot of time.

I still get some such thoughts. But now I tackle them better. As soon as I acknowledge that I’m going down the nihilistic spiral, I deliberately inject some very powerful words and images into my mind that puts me at immediate ease. These images are usually pulled up from my past achievements: moments of sheer joy & excitement. I also tell myself that I’m no more the same person who used to self sabotage my capabilities. Instead, I’m someone who is growing to be a very strong & powerful.

Such thoughts fuel me for more productive action and I stay elated almost 100% of the time.

You can do the same. Always remember that you can always choose what to think. Why not think better?

STARTING COMPLETELY OVER IN YOUR 30s

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Someone asked this question on REDDIT: What was it like for you to start completely over when you were over 30? —

MY ANSWER: It was incredible. I’ve already done it twice & I’m planning to do it a third time.

What I believe in & what you must also give some thought to is the fact that we get only one life & that we’re going to die someday. Yet most of us live their lives like they are coming back or as if they’re immortals.

Life is short. All your desires will turn into regrets if you don’t work on them. Stop being afraid to go after the life you truly want.

A great book to read is “On the Shortness of Life” by Seneca. I go back to this book again and again in the moments of doubts & it frees me up.

What motivated me?
I’m always eager to improve my life. My main motivation has always been to get to the next level. And I’ve had a very humble childhood. I was an average boy. Very soft. Full of emotional needs. I’ve been a follower for a very long time, and so I was able to learn a lot. I always worked on my weaknesses & overcome them. So now I feel this huge urge to lead, to help others who are struggling the way I did.

How did I start?
Whenever I start over, I completely immerse myself into the new zone. I learn everything from the scratch. I give it all my time & focus. I get rid of all distractions. That’s how I did it twice and on my way to a third transformation now.

What steps I took?
1. Deep research.
2. Talking to industry experts.
3. Making sure that I complete all my previous pending stuff.

How did I feel?
Mixed feelings. When you face rejections in a new domain of work, it feels bad. But if you believe in yourself enough, you won’t give up. I didn’t. I kept moving after the rejections & setbacks. Then finally when you reach where you wanted to be, it feels so good, so amazing that you forget all the pain you had to go through reaching there.

Did I relocate?
Yes & no. I was already working away from home when I decided to switch the first time. So it was like coming back home. But I would’ve done it anyhow.

What do I wish I had known before that I know now?
I wish I had known it gets easier if you’re more mentally tough. I was a little tough anyhow, but transitions would’ve been happier if I was more tough. The rejections wouldn’t have hurt. The opinions of others wouldn’t have mattered much. It’s great when you don’t care about what others think. Mental toughness is the secret to happiness.

I no more fear anything anymore because I’ve come to the realization that fear is self induced. Danger is real but fear is a product of your imagination. Now I’m willing to go through litigation to succeed. I’m building my emotional bank account to be so strong mentally that I become limitless. I’m willing to fight and be confrontational if needed. I’ll do whatever it takes to succeed & be what I want to be.

I wish the same for everyone!

Good luck!

HOW TO FIND YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE?

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If you’re clueless about your future and feel lost, read on. I’ll give you a step by step path you can follow. It will require some courage on your part, but you can do it.

1. MOVE OUT OF YOUR HOME:

If you’re living with your family, you’re influenced by their opinions in whatever you try to do. No matter how difficult it sounds, our parents usually f#@k us up. If you can’t move out of the house, stop listening to them. Also stop listening to anyone else that makes you feel low or weak.

2. BUILD YOUR EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT:

Most of us feel lost because we have low self esteem & low self worth. We feel negative emotions and we believe them to be true. Your negative feelings are a result of your habitual thinking. They’re not true. You’re capable of achieving a lot if you get more disciplined about what sort of emotions you allow yourself to react to. Remember, you’ll feel both negative and positive emotions. You choose to react only to the positive ones. Get self disciplined.

3. DREAM BIG:

We all have desires. No matter how lost you feel, there are things you really desire, things you dream of having, doing or being. Take out a pen and a paper and write down all your dreams. At this stage, don’t think about whether your dreams will come true or not. Just write them down. Convert these dreams into specific goals. Think about how you can reach closer to your dreams. Write down all the ways you might fulfill your desires. Write them down and set goals to each one.

4. FOCUS ON YOUR GOALS:

Take inventory of your daily routine and see how much time you waste on things that have no relation to your goals. Replace those unnecessary tasks with tasks you must do to get closer to your goals. Find a mentor who has been and done that which you’re aspiring to do. Most of your time must be spent with your mentor and working on your goals. Lay down a clear cut step by step plan as to how you’ll reach your goals. You’ll have to reverse engineer the steps by talking to your mentor. To be laser beam focused, create your affirmations and recite them twice daily that creates images in your mind about your future self achieving all your goals. Visualization of your future accomplishments and feeling positive emotions is a must.

5. TAKE ACTION:

Become obsessed about your vision and work relentlessly on your goals. Network with people who can help you along the way and surround yourself with people who are better than you in every area of your life. Never give up on your dreams. Accept that you’ll fail at times and you must restart with the same zeal. Work your plan and never stop till you get what you desire. Remember that you’ll have to get super disciplined and committed to do all this.

If you religiously follow the above 5 steps verbatim, you’ll be a on your way to success.

Good luck!