These quotes will help you during difficult times:
1. We’re all gonna die anyhow.
2. If I can walk past the tough times, everything else will be a cakewalk.
3. Fear is false expectations appearing real.
4. Tough times don’t last, tough people do.
5. It’s not what happens to you in life but how you interpret it.
6. Why think like mortals in all that you fear and like Immortals in all that you desire?
7. Tell yourself to stop being a coward and move forward with courage.
8. Forget the risk and take the fall. If it’s what you want then it’s worth it all.
9. Life is not fair. But I will still take what I want despite all odds.
10. To be unstoppable, never stop.
11. Trust yourself and love yourself first.
12. You have inner strengths and powers you haven’t yet tapped into.
13. Tough times shall make you stronger and more powerful.
14. Embrace failure for it teaches you a lot and it means you tried.
15. Either I’ll find a way or I’ll make one.
16. Deep down inside, everyone is a warrior. Seek his counsel and prepare yourself for war.
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THE BEST WAY TO FIGHT DEPRESSION
Become obsessed with changing yourself. We stay depressed because we do not wish to deal with the reality which is dark and cruel. We are afraid to confront it because it makes us uncomfortable.
Become obsessed with changing yourself. We stay depressed because we do not wish to deal with the reality which is dark and cruel. We are afraid to confront it because it makes us uncomfortable.
Remember that the pain of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.
In order to change, you must let go of your present self. You must realize that you’re constantly evolving. So either you are going down the spiral or upward. You’re never out of motion. You’re never at pause. Also, you’re not your past. Either you are better than who you were yesterday or you are worse.
So you have two choices: to change for better or to change for worse. Of course, when you’re depressed, it won’t feel like you have a Choice because you’re so entangled within the downward spiral. But you still, at the most basic level, have that choice to decide to move upward. It will be tough but if you really want it, you can do it.
We also don’t change because everytime we try to change, we are reminded of the past failed attempts at changing which create patterns of disappointment and pain.
Also, the pain of staying the same is always less than the pain of change. And so we choose not to change.
Remember, whether you choose to stay the same or you choose to change, you will suffer pain in both your choices. So you must choose which pain would you rather suffer because life is suffering and we must sacrifice something to gain anything. Decide what you wish to sacrifice.
Good luck!
HOW TO PERMANENTLY REDUCE YOUR SUFFERING?
Marcus Aurelius says that every day you must dip into thoughts that put you at immediate and complete ease.
Seneca says people are troubled more due their own imaginative creations than due to reality. Think better. Here is how:
Thinking is work. It is true that we do not always choose our thoughts and some negative thoughts would pop up out of nowhere to trouble our tranquil minds. Yet, it is also true that we can create our own thoughts. But very few people actually practice this act of creating your own thoughts. Most people simply follow their stream of consciousness to the extent of wasting a lot of their time on things that matter very little.
Think better means to inject fresh new thoughts into your mind yourself. It is this act of creating your own favorite thoughts when you realize your mind is cluttered with negativity. It requires visualization and some powerful words that immediately put you at ease.
Marcus Aurelius says that every day you must dip into thoughts that put you at immediate and complete ease. You must always have at your disposal few fundamental thoughts that wash away all your pain and renew you for action. Whenever negativity gets hold of you, immediately return to these few fundamental thoughts and renew yourself.
I started practicing it recently and I’m way happier than I used to be. Earlier, I would fall into the trap of my own thoughts telling me that life is meaningless and there is no point in trying to accomplish anything because death equals it all. Basically, I would think myself into nihilism & would chuckle at it, thereby WASTING a lot of time.
I still get some such thoughts. But now I tackle them better. As soon as I acknowledge that I’m going down the nihilistic spiral, I deliberately inject some very powerful words and images into my mind that puts me at immediate ease. These images are usually pulled up from my past achievements: moments of sheer joy & excitement. I also tell myself that I’m no more the same person who used to self sabotage my capabilities. Instead, I’m someone who is growing to be a very strong & powerful.
Such thoughts fuel me for more productive action and I stay elated almost 100% of the time.
You can do the same. Always remember that you can always choose what to think. Why not think better?
STARTING COMPLETELY OVER IN YOUR 30s
Someone asked this question on REDDIT: What was it like for you to start completely over when you were over 30? —
MY ANSWER: It was incredible. I’ve already done it twice & I’m planning to do it a third time.
What I believe in & what you must also give some thought to is the fact that we get only one life & that we’re going to die someday. Yet most of us live their lives like they are coming back or as if they’re immortals.
Life is short. All your desires will turn into regrets if you don’t work on them. Stop being afraid to go after the life you truly want.
A great book to read is “On the Shortness of Life” by Seneca. I go back to this book again and again in the moments of doubts & it frees me up.
What motivated me?
I’m always eager to improve my life. My main motivation has always been to get to the next level. And I’ve had a very humble childhood. I was an average boy. Very soft. Full of emotional needs. I’ve been a follower for a very long time, and so I was able to learn a lot. I always worked on my weaknesses & overcome them. So now I feel this huge urge to lead, to help others who are struggling the way I did.
How did I start?
Whenever I start over, I completely immerse myself into the new zone. I learn everything from the scratch. I give it all my time & focus. I get rid of all distractions. That’s how I did it twice and on my way to a third transformation now.
What steps I took?
1. Deep research.
2. Talking to industry experts.
3. Making sure that I complete all my previous pending stuff.
How did I feel?
Mixed feelings. When you face rejections in a new domain of work, it feels bad. But if you believe in yourself enough, you won’t give up. I didn’t. I kept moving after the rejections & setbacks. Then finally when you reach where you wanted to be, it feels so good, so amazing that you forget all the pain you had to go through reaching there.
Did I relocate?
Yes & no. I was already working away from home when I decided to switch the first time. So it was like coming back home. But I would’ve done it anyhow.
What do I wish I had known before that I know now?
I wish I had known it gets easier if you’re more mentally tough. I was a little tough anyhow, but transitions would’ve been happier if I was more tough. The rejections wouldn’t have hurt. The opinions of others wouldn’t have mattered much. It’s great when you don’t care about what others think. Mental toughness is the secret to happiness.
I no more fear anything anymore because I’ve come to the realization that fear is self induced. Danger is real but fear is a product of your imagination. Now I’m willing to go through litigation to succeed. I’m building my emotional bank account to be so strong mentally that I become limitless. I’m willing to fight and be confrontational if needed. I’ll do whatever it takes to succeed & be what I want to be.
I wish the same for everyone!
Good luck!
HOW TO TRANSFORM YOUR WEAKNESSES INTO STRENGTHS?
Nobody can help you unless you want to help yourself. We all struggle with some weaknesses, but we forget that our most powerful actions emerge from our weaknesses only. It’s time for you to take a good look at yourself and transform your WEAKNESSES into your STRENGTHS!
Here is how you do it:
1. GET QUITE.
Sit yourself in a dark room. Throw all technology away. No phones. No music. No TVs. No computers. Start thinking. Try to find out who you truly want to become. Visualize this person you want to become. Make sure you imagine this person as someone you will be proud of, NOT someone others will be proud of. Put yourself first. See what is it that if you accomplish well would give you most pride & happiness. Think hard about it.
2. GO BACK TO YOUR CHILDHOOD.
You might have to go back into your childhood and see yourself from an objective view. There might have been things that happened to you in the past that made you limit yourself in certain areas, things that diminished your abilities. Find those things out & write them down. Remember these things. These are the things you will need that will give you the power to go on, because they will make you bring that change in you. Bad things that happen to us are actually the things that we need to go on. They fuel us. They give us the necessary power to not give up when it gets hard. They remind us of what we can actually take and move forward. They make us become more powerful & more tough.
Good luck!